Is it over between me (40M) and my (possibly narcissistic?) girlfriend (44F)?

2021.12.06 08:22 notyetd_questionmark Is it over between me (40M) and my (possibly narcissistic?) girlfriend (44F)?

This is a crosspost to https://www.reddit.com/NarcissisticAbuse/comments/ra5284/is_it_over_between_me_40m_and_my_possibly/
tldr; Relationship with my girlfriend who often treated me horribly is finally over, I think, but we have to live in the same flat for a few days, maybe even weeks. What should I do to keep myself safe? I still love her so so much.
I've been together with my girlfriend, or ex, for just over five years. The first year was extremely nice, although everything went pretty quickly ('I love you' at the fourth meeting, shared apartment after about 6 months), then everything started to go down the drain.
It started with her outbursts of rage and belittling me on a regular basis, each time so intense that I didn't know what to do. Mostly because of little things, for example because I used her towel or one of her cups. Most of the time all I could do was cry, and then I was deliberately ignored or even insulted or scorned because of it. In the first few years it happened about two times a month, but as time went on the frequency increased, and this year it was almost every three or four days.
Please don't get me wrong, I don't want to say that I never made mistakes myself, of course I did, I was sometimes grumpy or not in a good mood, but I really and truly tried to work on myself and apologized every time from the bottom of my heart. Compared to the frequency and viciousness of her behavior, my own has been much less severe, although I have to admit that this is of course quite subjective.
The last two years were hell on earth, not always, but very often. She said she didn't have enough feelings for me anymore, she was unsure if it would be enough for a relationship and in the long run, and she wanted to break up with me a total of 4 or 5 times in these two years. Unfortunately, I was already so dependent on her love that I ran after her like an idiot every time and cried, begged and pleaded.
And every time she said again, mostly on the same day she wanted to break up beforehand, that she would love me and everything would be good again.
In these two years I was regularly insulted and humiliated by her in the worst way, always because of little things, almost always because of household things (although I am actually a good housekeeper) and I always had to apologize to her afterwards, but she almost never apologized to me.
Then yesterday the whole thing reached its climax so far. After she said the day before yesterday again she didn't have enough feelings left for me, but we were able to talk it out again, yesterday I was a bit uncertain and sad about this, and wanted to talk to her briefly, just to hear that maybe she was more confident again and basically I just wanted to tell her that I love her.
Her freak out this time was really unprecedented. She accused me of constantly producing drama, of only thinking about myself, of being a huge egoist, and of crushing her with my insecurity. I admit that I was extremely insecure, but who wouldn't be after two years of doubts from her side.
I cried then, and she said I would only want to manipulate her with my tears from the beginning.
She then ended the relationship for good, or rather we both did, this time me too, because I just couldn't take it anymore. I was so hurt that I just said it.
She then told me to just leave her alone, she didn't want to talk about it, and she was tired of my constant dramas.
This has been going on for the last two years - that she is not willing to talk about anything concerning our relationship, because she thinks it would always be my personal drama and I would be a huge burden for her.
I am now faced with the dilemma that it is over between us, but that I still live with her in the shared apartment, and will probably only be able to move out in about a week.
Please give me tips on how I can best get through this unscathed, what can I do so that I don't make the whole situation even worse. I am so afraid that I am really a manipulator, even though I know that my tears are always really out of pain, never on purpose. What if she is right?
I'm so afraid that this time it's really over and she will leave me, I love her so much.
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